Esther Perel: Why Modern Love Is So Complicated!

🎯 Top Takeaways

1. Fire needs air: desire requires space and separateness; constant closeness kills passion
2. Erotic desire doesn't emerge from responsibility and caretaking—it emerges from novelty and play
3. Committed relationships require ongoing choice—love is a verb, not just a feeling
4. In long-term relationships, we often sacrifice desire for security—both are possible with intention
5. We ask one partner to give us what an entire village used to provide—that's an impossible task